Start over! To live is to learn
Suppose life is about learning. That that is what we as human beings all come to do here on earth. And that learning means developing, gaining more and more access to the possibilities you have, to your true potential. Not just in the calibrated “areas of learning” like work and study, but also in your personal development, in your relationships, in how you raise your children, how you treat others, how you are in the world. If in all these areas it’s all about learning, developing, then you can’t really make mistakes. How wonderful that is!
Right versus wrong
Unfortunately, many of us live from the right-wrong paradigm. It starts with how we grew up. Good behavior was rewarded and wrong behavior was ignored, punished or circumvented. This is how we learned what is right and wrong. By what, initially, was right and wrong in the eyes of our parents. And depending on the consequences that followed when we did something “wrong,” we will be more or less afraid to make them in the present.
Learning unlearned
In this way we have lost what learning is really about. Too much depended on it when we were little and we took that with us into our adulthood. As a result, we’re afraid to make mistakes, that’s why we don’t start anything, or that we exhaust ourselves trying to do things right, or that the slightest feedback puts us on edge, or that we try to cover up the fact that we make them at all. Such a shame, because this way we don’t learn. We are not developing. Are we just protecting ourselves from something that no longer exists. Our past.
Goodbye right and wrong, hello learning!
And we can stop doing that. We can step back into the perspective of “being able to learn. Giving ourselves the opportunity to develop, in the areas we would like to develop in. Freely, like a small child discovering the world. With a curious, inquisitive attitude. And with pleasure! And those ‘mistakes’ we are often so afraid of being judged for? They simply don’t exist. Those are precisely the moments when you learn! ⯑
Zou also like to step out of the right-wrong perspective so that you can develop through learning? And could you use some help with that? Then contact a PRI therapist. We will help you on your way!
