Start again! Life is learning
Suppose life is about learning. That that is what we as humans all come to do here on earth. And that learning means that you develop, that you get more and more access to the possibilities you have, to your true potential. Not only in the established 'learning areas' such as work and study, but also in your personal development, in your relationship, in how you raise your children, how you interact with others, how you stand in the world. If it is about learning in all those areas, that you develop, then you can't actually make mistakes. How wonderful is that!
Good versus bad
Unfortunately, many of us live from the right-wrong paradigm. That starts with how we grew up. Good behavior was rewarded and bad behavior was ignored, punished, or circumvented. That's how we learned what is right and wrong. By what, initially, was right and wrong in the eyes of our parents. And depending on the consequences that followed when we did something 'wrong', we will be more or less afraid to make them in the present.
Unlearned learning
In this way, we have lost sight of what learning is really about. Too much depended on it when we were little and we took that into our adulthood. As a result, we are afraid of making mistakes, so we don't start anything, or we exhaust ourselves to do things right, or we get angry at the slightest feedback, or we try to cover up that we make them at all. Such a waste, because this way we don't learn. We don't develop. We are only busy protecting ourselves against something that no longer exists. Our past.
Farewell good and bad, hello learning!
And we can stop that. We can step back into the perspective of 'being able to learn'. Give ourselves the opportunity to develop, in the areas where we would like to develop. Free, like a small child discovers the world. With a curious, inquisitive attitude. And with pleasure! And those 'mistakes' that we are often so afraid of being judged on? They simply don't exist. Those are precisely the moments when you learn! ⯑
Would you also like to step out of the right-wrong perspective so that you can develop by learning? And could you use some help with that? Then contact a PRI therapist. We'll help you on your way!
